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My thoughts in words…

Are you living in an invisible bubble?

Most people I have met throughout life that have dealt with a tragedy or a life-altering experience live within an “invisible bubble.”

I too, have found myself living in an “invisible bubble” at times.

The “invisible bubble” allows us to look at everything around us while protecting us from harm.

There are both pros and cons to living in an “invisible bubble.”

One pro is that it protects us from the hurt caused by others and the world around us while keeping us safe within our “comfort zone.”

A con is that it keeps us from fully connecting with others and from taking in the “good” that life has to offer.

Life is full of surprises.  Some of the surprises are good, where others aren’t great at all.

There is an inner peace that comes with forgiveness.  The key to true happiness is to forgive.

Forgive those that have harmed you, and forgive the world when it is not as it should be.

Ephesians 4:32 

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

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Remembering what it’s like to be inlove…

Most recently, I was going through some old boxes when I discovered a box that contained all of the pictures of me and my exhusband.

There were so many pictures of when we dated, when we were engaged, and when we were married.

I couldn’t help but notice how happy and inlove we looked in each of the photos.

Although my marriage didn’t work out, I loved my exhusband more than anything in the world, and there wasn’t anything that I wouldn’t have done for him.

He was my everything, and if I had to do it all over again, I would still have married him.

I have been inlove twice in my life.  Once was with my exhusband, and the other person I have never had the courage to tell.

Love is strange and confusing, and I have yet to fully understand it.  What I do know is that you can’t “plan” to fall inlove with someone, it just happens.

I am so thankful that I have had the experience of falling inlove.  I know what it’s like to feel completely “head over heels” inlove, and it’s the best feeling in the world.

I hope and pray to God that he will someday place a man in my life that will love me as much as I do him…

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Life as we see it…

During our twenties some of us were aimlessly wondering around trying to figure out who we were, what we wanted to do, who we wanted to date, where we wanted to visit, what we wanted to learn, and why were were even here!

During our thirties some of us managed to have finally gotten married, maybe had some kids from our marriage, found a job that we were somewhat satisfied with, felt a little more knowledgeable and cultured about the world and society, found out who our “real friends” were, realized that money doesn’t grow on trees, and we learned that the young, elderly, homeless, sick and poor really DO need our help.

During our forties some of us realized that life isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be.  We’ve lived long enough to have lost loved ones, watched others destroy themselves, or their relationships through addictions or infidelity.  We’ve watched the economy fall, and watched some face the turmoil that accompanies such a depressing time.  We admit to ourselves that we can’t change others, and we try to be forgiving to those that have harmed us.  Some of us remind ourselves that God, our family and friends are really what’s most important.

Then, we realize that we do have a purpose here.  Some of us learn to be more patient, understanding, accepting and forgiving.  We learn that what we do and say affects people.

We learn the power of influence can either strengthen or destroy us.  We learn that we are responsible for our own happiness, so we surround ourselves with people who are safe and positive.

Lastly, some of us thank GOD every day for being alive.  We thank him for all the good in our life.  We ask him to give us strength on days when we are weak, and to forgive us when we are wrong.

Thank you GOD for all the good in my life.  Thank you for my health, family and friends, I am forever grateful…

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When people actually care…

After receiving a few messages from female friends, it has come to my attention that showing others that you care should be a natural task, but for some people this has proven to be difficult.

Whether it be as simple as returning a phone call, following through with what you say, or just letting the other person know that you care, some people just don’t get it!  And unfortunately, people don’t change unless they want to.

I’ve seen this scenario with all sorts of relationships:  spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, coworkers and relatives.

Life is constant, and we are all busy.  We’re busy living, working and surviving to the best of our abilities.

To actually show someone that you care is a selfless act, and some people aren’t capable of it, and even more tragically some have never learned how to do it, or how important it is to show others that you care.

I’ve seen some spouses or significant others go to the “end of the earth” for their loved ones, while others choose to put everything else in their life ahead of the people that should be the most important to them.

For those of you that take the time to engage with your loved ones, I commend you.

For those of you that haven’t shown your family or friends that you care, NOW is the time to start.

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Love…

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Love is pure.

Love is profound.

Love is forgiving.

Love has no boundaries or limits.

Love is unconditional.

Love consumes your thoughts.

Love can be tantalizing.

Love reminds you that you are human.

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True Love…

True love is the acceptance of another regardless of their faults.

True love paralyzes your thoughts.

True love leaves you longing for their voice, laugh, smile, smell and touch.

True love is the essence of a person’s soul entwined with another.

True love prevails amongst all things…

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Hearts-hard candy or soft chocolate?

We all know that Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a day of love and the sharing of oneself with another.  I’ve definitely met a variety of “hearts” in my time.  I like to refer to the “hearts” that I’ve met as “hard candy or soft chocolate.”  Some people have been “takers” where others are “givers.”

Did you know that we develop our personality traits by age six?  That means that if a person wasn’t taught to give at an early age that they are more than likely not going to give as an adult.  For those that were taught to love, care and give to others usually develop into loving, caring adults.

I like Valentine’s Day, but it’s unfortunate that we have to have a holiday to remind us to be loving towards one another.  I think the point is to be loving towards your family or significant other every day of the year regardless of what day it may be.  Therefore, I nominate that we treat every single day as Valentine’s Day.  Life’s too short to not recognize all of the people who mean the most to us in our lives.  Make today, Valentine’s Day, the first day that you begin your journey to be loving towards your family or significant other.

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